Before I tell you about my conversation with my 8 yr. old granddaughter Kayden I thought I’d share with you some of the reasons why this article brought a smile to my face. As a grandma who plays a big role in her grand daughter’s upbringing, it’s often hard to be a grandma and do the grand-parenting at the same time.
The balancing act isn’t easy and I struggle daily with wanting to make sure the girls are learning life lessons and becoming little ladies and tossing cookies in the air and jumping on the couch. Hey! That’s what grandmas do . . . right? :)
Anyways let’s get on with the conversation I had with Kayden this morning.
Grand-parenting – Life Lessons I am trying to teach
When I feel like crap I can always count on one of these little monkeys (my two granddaughters) to bring a smile to my face!
As we are walking out the door to go to the bus stop Kayden looks at me and says. . . our conversation is below.
Kayden: Grandma, drive me to school today and walk me to my class.
Me: Why I thought you liked riding the bus, did something happen or is there anything I need to know about?
Kayden: No, I do like riding the bus and nothing happened. But I want to show off my grandma, you look good today. (placing her hand on my shoulder) Besides I am pretty sure no one’s grandma looks like you. They will be thinking oh my goodness Kayden’s grandma looks good.
Me: Ah, thank you. But what are grandma’s supposed to look like?
Kayden: I like this outfit on you. (Workout pants and black tank top, workout shoes) and grandmas are old and fat. You’re not.
Me: You’re too sweet Kayden, thank you! But I am pretty sure not all grandmas are fat and old.
Grand-parenting – Life Lessons from the conversation?
Meanwhile, I am wondering who paid her to say that and should I check her phone for texts from people telling her to say it?
There are a few lessons you can take from this story. But which one would you take?
1- Even when you feel like crap try to make yourself presentable?
2- Is it true that kids will tell it to you like it is? *Smiles I like this one*
3- But more importantly when I feel like crap I know I can depend on family. A tough lesson to learn, and even harder one to teach. I am hopeful that the girls are learning this.
Grand-parenting – Life lessons how do we teach them it all?
I think it’s important to teach children that they don’t have to look good for others, but do it more for themselves. If you feel like crap and look like crap, you feel even worse? How do you even teach that lesson? Maybe it’s one of those things they learn from seeing?
Then there is the lesson of being honest. Kids will no matter what will tell it to you like it is. I can’t remember what age they start to realize that the blunt cold truth might hurt. But I hope my granddaughters will always feel comfortable with telling me like it is.
The lesson of Family First is the hardest to teach, sometimes it’s the hardest to follow and probably one of the most forgotten lessons. I remind the girls, my children, and husband often that family comes first. When you’re at your lowest and feel like crap it’s family that’s going to be there. When you need a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen to you, or someone to just be there. It’s family!
It’s important for my family to know that no matter what they can tell me, no matter how bad, ugly or awful they think it is they can tell me. I am there for them no matter what.
It’s not just Grand-parenting it’s parenting
I know these aren’t lessons that just grandparents want their grandchildren to know. They are life lessons as parents we teach our children. These are important to me maybe more than others because they weren’t something that was around when I was growing up.
Maybe I value them more now as a grandparent because the world is so much tougher than it was when I was growing up. I love my family and value the role that each of us plays. There is hope that these lessons will be remembered when I am long gone. I hope . . . that I’ve taught them enough that they remember them while raising their children.